Feel free to leave comments and share your feedback. Women, email me at drstyles@somanystyles.com with your questions about men.
Dear Dr. Styles,
I am recently out of a 2 1/2 year relationship. I want to get back out on the dating scene however I have been out of the game for a while. In fact my dating skills are a little rusty. I am cool on the club scene but I would still like to meet someone. Any suggestions on scouting out the opposite sex without hitting a bar?
-Lonely Beauty in Sacramento
Hello Lonely Beauty,
It’s very hard to just go out with the intentions of meeting someone compatible to date. Personally, if you are just out of a long relationship, I’d advise that you take some time to yourself to sort out your own personal feelings and emotions. Until you get to a point where you are happily single, it will be hard to be happy in a relationship. Use this as an opportunity to evaluate your last relationship and what you’ve learned about yourself. Think about what you want, don’t want, what you’ll accept or not. Think what you did well and what things you could have done better. Usually there are two sides to a story after a split and the other side is always wrong. But maybe there were things you both did that you could have done better, been more patient about, or applied more understanding. Be honest with yourself in your evaluation.
As far as meeting men, I always feel that the best way to meet people is doing the everyday things we do. I have met some really interesting people catching transit to work, at the grocery store, sitting in a park, eating lunch, shucks even church, don’t sleep. Basically if you’re happy and approachable, men will see your glow and show interest in you. Feel free to develop platonic friendships with men that you think are really cool. Many times, good guys run in packs, and he may have a really nice friend that’s interested in you. That’s a good way to pre-screen them also. In all, just keep doing what you do and if someone is supposed to be in your life, they will become apparent.
Dr. Styles
Thanks for the advice, Dr. Styles. I think you are right about taking some time to evaluate myself and my now expired relationship.When I am ready to date, I will definitely try your suggestions.
Thanks again!
Lonely Beauty in Sacramento
Good luck to you Lonely Beauty!
The Doc
Dear Dr. Styles,
Network, network, network! As a woman, I have to say how dissappointed I am in my girlfriends who dog out a man simply because they are not attracted to him. Ladies, please believe that if you meet a nice man, he probably has some nice friends whom are also single. If you meet a man that isn’t really your type, get to know him and become his friend. He just might be a good person to have in your life, he just might introduce you to your next love destiny, or he may be the Mr. Right one of your girls has been waiting for. “It ain’t no fun, if the homies can’t have none”!
Men are all around you. You just have to be open and cautious of whom you speak to. Don’t judge the book by the cover. I get dirty for my paper (plumber) but clean up well to engage in social settings. None the less, I like playing in the clouds. There is no set venue to meet a man or eligible man. Just be yourself and allow your beauty to radiate. And be all means-speak up if you have an interest in someone. Close mouths don’t get fed nor heard.