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Dear Dr. Styles,
The REY in my life aka MC Yaps A LoT has decided to start a fan club, for himself. Now when I see his Myspace page I get to see all sorts of half-naked women posting I LOVE YAPPY!!!! In all sorts of interesting positions on their bodies. I do not want to be the crazy girlfriend, but it makes me want to design a yappy doll and poke the eyeballs out! What is a REINA to do when her man gets a fan club?
Sincerely,
Big . eyed . luscious . lipped . angela
Thanks for this question Reina. This is a problem that is near and dear to my heart because my last girlfriend did not appreciate my DJ Styles Myspace site either. Gentlemen such as myself and MC Yappy use a medium like Myspace as a business tool to market and promote ourselves. Your man’s love for you is not diminished by the fans displaying their love for Yappy. What type of entertainer would your man be if he had no fans? As entertainers we have to use everything we got to achieve our lifelong goals and dreams. In fact it is our intense passion that attracts people to us in the first place. So if we use our charisma, charm, good looks, or whatever to sell ourselves, it’s all business and we are our own products. If Will Smith, Boris Kodjo, or Brad Pitt was your man, would you be mad because most of the women in the free world loved your man too? Or would you appreciate that those fans are paying the bills to support your man’s work and your lifestyle. Granted, Yappy or I probably won’t be paying your bills, but if we achieve our dreams and you are our woman then I’m sure you’ll benefit.
Unfortunately, a site like Myspace gets a bad rap. I have learned recently that all types of women snoop, spy, and keep tabs on everything their man, or men they’re interested in are doing on Myspace. If your man is up to no good or has shown propensities to do underhanded things then you have a reason to be worried. If he’s promoting himself and especially his business and he loves you, honors and cherishes you then please don’t trouble him with negative stuff about what he does or how he does it. A lot of us who aren’t on cable television, your local Clear Channel station, or huge billboards next to the freeway have to use what I call Ghetto Marketing skills to get ourselves out there and make ourselves pertinent. That means getting the most bang for the buck. In the case of Myspace it’s free and there’s a captive audience waiting to meet us.
There are three things that sell in America: Sex, Violence, and Drugs. I can’t speak for Yappy, but I know I don’t sell violence or drugs. Why shouldn’t I use my looks, height, or quick smile to charm women to come down to my events? That’s all part of the show and that doesn’t mean we’re trying to run around with them all. Think of it this way, as a woman most of you have used your looks, charms, sweetness to your advantage when standing in line, pulled over by a policeman, looking for the hookup to get in the club, or you just plain need some manpower to help you move furniture, fix your toilet, or repair your car. All entertainers, men or women have to use these soft skills to sell ourselves constantly. Do you think Tyrese is purely famous for his singing or acting abilities and why is Toni Braxton always putting on a strip tease when her voice speaks for itself? These are the things and trappings that we as entertainers have to go through. I’m a huge Mariah Carey fan and it’s not because of the way she sang “Dreamlover,” although I still think she’s singing “We Belong Together” about me. But that’s just it, I’m a fan and I support her so she can jet-set around the world being the drama queen that she is. In the end that’s what I tell you Reina, they are just fans on Yappy’s site, just like me and Mariah and you should enjoy that your man is a good enough entertainer to have fans.
Sincerely,
Dr. Styles
yeah, i hear you … like i heard him …
tell mc yaps a lot, i’ll be waiting for the check… hahahe ohhhh j.k.
i dig all the music i’ve been exposed to through you all, just have little issures with the women sometimes, because i know they’re all queens and it’s against my principles to take up with women (unless they are touching him and i’m there, cause then we’re gonna have some words) but really in the end… he hears it and not them, because he communicates better with me… he is my friend and i support that.
i’ll keep staying strong, even though sometimes i don’t want to.
love to you men and all your hard work …
well la bElla, i appreciate your understanding. that’s what i’m here for, to break down what the common man is doing in common language for you and women to understand why your man does what he does. i’m sure when the checks come rolling in, yappy will remember who is down for him and who is not. :~)
love, peace, and hairgrease,
dr. styles
In response to your question, would a wo/man be worth your time and energy if you felt you needed to snoop on her/him? I’d rather just not be with a man that I felt I needed to be concened about in that way. I too am in the same boat. My BF is a DJ/party promoter and has a page on MySpace. I’m not going to lie, at 1st it bugged me a bit. However, the more time we spend together, the more his actions reassure me that the hoochies on his page don’t matter to him, and I do. His passion is dancing and music, and I know that there will be times when he is out without me and that girls will flirt with and pursue him (hell, they’ve already done it in front of me.) The thing is, I know he cares about me, and I care about him. In the grand scheme of things, that’s all that really matters and I’m not going to ruin our wonderful relationship with BS and jealousy. Besides, this ain’t high school and I have too much self respect to go through that shady stuff. Shoot.